“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection, to me, that is the true essence of beauty."
~ Dr. Steve Maraboli
All too often, we are met with insecurities that sometimes stem from the seeds planted by other individuals and their opinions of their image of you. This is body/image shaming. Body and/or image shaming is judging and/or negatively comparing the appearance of one person to another. While it is not always to the recipient’s knowledge, it is most oftentimes in front of them. It is a trend passed down for generations. From past to present we see how people are judged and shamed for how they look. Either they are too big, or too small… too dark or too light. “Girl, you are so thin… what a toothpick you are, you okay? You need to eat! You need a steak.” “You skinny girls make me sick!” “You are so fat, you can sit on a rainbow and skittles pop out!” “It ain’t over til the fat lady sings!” People even try to mask it with not-so-complimentary compliments like “ooooh girl you are so pretty for a dark-skinned girl.” … “You are so pretty for a big/thick girl.”
For years, I was the skinny girl. Always judged for being small. Even when I was pregnant with my first child, the nutritionist assumed that I was on drugs or a smoker because I just wasn’t gaining any weight. She assumed something was wrong with me. I was six months pregnant and still just 102 pounds. People left me feeling ugly and terrible. It got to the point where heavier women would judge me, and my clapback was real… “don’t blame me for your lazy metabolism, don’t get mad, get fit!” And then one day, GOD checked me. Don’t treat them the way they treat you! Hurting people hurt people. We are all beautiful, and despite what other people may say or what their opinions are… we have to love ourselves and the vessel that carries us. Our bodies are the temple of GOD and HIS spirit dwells within us. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are all beautiful. And we must take care of ourselves and love ourselves from the inside out! WE MUST love the skin we are in! The minute we begin to do that, we can truly move toward living our best lives.
Living your best life does not mean it will be trouble, pain, and challenge-free. You will still have to drown out the noise of the people who can’t just see their way toward normalizing moving in love and less judgement. It means living a life where love abounds, resilience resides, authenticity transforms us to our true selves, rest and self-care rule, release heals, laughter happens, joy lives within and love sustains. Because GOD is LOVE. HE will assist you in love of self and love of others. Love the skin you are in, because you are a perfectly imperfect beauty, fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of a perfect GOD. So, wear your confidence like makeup Lovey, and show a little love and lipstick. GOD thinks you are wonderful, and so do I!